jkenward
02-24-06, 06:02 PM
Hello everyone and thank you in advance for taking the time to read this post and hopefully offering some suggestions or experiences!
Almost two years ago, seven months into my second pregnancy with our second child (a son), my husband was diagnosed with testicular cancer. He had the testicle involved removed within 48 hours and following our son being born almost all two months early (stress induced...obviously), my husband did a two-week session of radiation. All went fairly smoothly considering the obvious obstacles and we felt little but relief. (Honestly, I think it may have even improved our quality of life because we began appreciating the things we took for granted pre-cancer.)
Things continue to be very positive for all of us and all of my husband's 3 month oncology check-ups have yielded nothing other than encouraging information. We feel blessed. All that being said, together we have one tiny concern/question regarding sex drive following this experience.
We realize it's possible for the changes to be natural - either cancer related, age related, lifestyles related, or all of the above. (Let's be honest, my husband was twenty-nine when diagnosed and now thirty, things are not going to "function" the way they did in his early twenties.) Besides that, we now have two kids, less privacy, we've survived a great deal of stress together in the past two years, etc., etc.
So, here's the point, I guess, has anyone else experienced a decrease in sex drive following this surgery? cancer? experience? While we used to be daily "partners", he's more interested in every couple of days now. It's not that he doesn't want to, but it seems it takes more time for him to "recover". Also, he's noticed a tendency to be "finished" more quickly.
I know that I'm rambling, but I truly want to be clear. We're not looking to "blame" the cancer, we just want to know if it's possible - or are we dealing with a natural change of life? Would this have all come about without the cancer? Should be consider speaking to his doctor about it? Could his tertosterone levels be decreased? (I hope I don't sound like a spoiled ***, but he's so worried about this.) If the doctor tells us it's a natural change, should we accept his opinion our pressure for more information?
Any suggestions would be so greatly appreciated! I know this is a sensitive and private topic, so to anyone who offers their experiences - a special thank you!
Hugs to all survivors and supporters!
Almost two years ago, seven months into my second pregnancy with our second child (a son), my husband was diagnosed with testicular cancer. He had the testicle involved removed within 48 hours and following our son being born almost all two months early (stress induced...obviously), my husband did a two-week session of radiation. All went fairly smoothly considering the obvious obstacles and we felt little but relief. (Honestly, I think it may have even improved our quality of life because we began appreciating the things we took for granted pre-cancer.)
Things continue to be very positive for all of us and all of my husband's 3 month oncology check-ups have yielded nothing other than encouraging information. We feel blessed. All that being said, together we have one tiny concern/question regarding sex drive following this experience.
We realize it's possible for the changes to be natural - either cancer related, age related, lifestyles related, or all of the above. (Let's be honest, my husband was twenty-nine when diagnosed and now thirty, things are not going to "function" the way they did in his early twenties.) Besides that, we now have two kids, less privacy, we've survived a great deal of stress together in the past two years, etc., etc.
So, here's the point, I guess, has anyone else experienced a decrease in sex drive following this surgery? cancer? experience? While we used to be daily "partners", he's more interested in every couple of days now. It's not that he doesn't want to, but it seems it takes more time for him to "recover". Also, he's noticed a tendency to be "finished" more quickly.
I know that I'm rambling, but I truly want to be clear. We're not looking to "blame" the cancer, we just want to know if it's possible - or are we dealing with a natural change of life? Would this have all come about without the cancer? Should be consider speaking to his doctor about it? Could his tertosterone levels be decreased? (I hope I don't sound like a spoiled ***, but he's so worried about this.) If the doctor tells us it's a natural change, should we accept his opinion our pressure for more information?
Any suggestions would be so greatly appreciated! I know this is a sensitive and private topic, so to anyone who offers their experiences - a special thank you!
Hugs to all survivors and supporters!