My 23 year old son found a lump about the size of a pea about 4-5 weeks ago. He gave it a couple of weeks, when he noticed it getting larger, he scheduled an appointment with a GP. Since he hasn't seen a doctor in a couple of years and moved this past January, they scheduled him for two weeks later (this past Friday) and he didn't push the issue. Trying to keep me from worrying, he never said anything to me until Friday when I was driving in to take him to the airport for him to take a 2 week vacation in Europe (which he cancelled after seeing the GP).
By the time he saw the GP Friday, the lump had grown until the testicle was about 4 times the size of the other testicle. He had ultrasound the same day, was given suspected cancer diagnosis from urologist Monday with tumor markers drawn on Monday and had surgery Tuesday afternoon. He had some additional bleeding in recovery, but was re-bandaged and sent home. Yesterday (day before Thanksgiving), he bled through his bandaging and we went to ER and bleeding stopped on its own. Surgeon thought the large hematoma that had formed at incision site would keep enough pressure to keep the bleeding stopped. It didn't, and we ended up back at the ER today for a second surgery to remove all the clotting and excess blood and to cauterize whatever was bleeding.
While in the ER yesterday, the urologist told us AFP and HCG were both elevated. I chose to not ask what the numbers were - we can get to that next week after CT scan (Monday) and when pathology comes back.
Enough history. As a 23 year old son who is protective of his mom, he wants to be independent and not rely on me. I'm trying to balance giving him space and time with making things easier for him. As he heads into chemo, should I push him to let me do more or wait for him to ask?
Cathy
By the time he saw the GP Friday, the lump had grown until the testicle was about 4 times the size of the other testicle. He had ultrasound the same day, was given suspected cancer diagnosis from urologist Monday with tumor markers drawn on Monday and had surgery Tuesday afternoon. He had some additional bleeding in recovery, but was re-bandaged and sent home. Yesterday (day before Thanksgiving), he bled through his bandaging and we went to ER and bleeding stopped on its own. Surgeon thought the large hematoma that had formed at incision site would keep enough pressure to keep the bleeding stopped. It didn't, and we ended up back at the ER today for a second surgery to remove all the clotting and excess blood and to cauterize whatever was bleeding.
While in the ER yesterday, the urologist told us AFP and HCG were both elevated. I chose to not ask what the numbers were - we can get to that next week after CT scan (Monday) and when pathology comes back.
Enough history. As a 23 year old son who is protective of his mom, he wants to be independent and not rely on me. I'm trying to balance giving him space and time with making things easier for him. As he heads into chemo, should I push him to let me do more or wait for him to ask?
Cathy
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