Oh my gosh, I really feel for you. River Blue has been keeping us updated on your reaction to the bleo infusion and recent trip to the hospital. You seem to have had a much bumpier start with the BEP than many people do, so hopefully some of the issues you are having now can be resolved before the next round.
I believe the ringing you are referring to is from the Cisplatin, which you receive every day of your first week, in each of the 3 cycles. From what I have read, this is one of the "harsher" of chemo meds, but it gets the job done. Although the ear ringing has got to make you feel like you are losing your mind, it is my understanding that it is not permanent. I THINK I read somewhere that when you get your next treatment, if they slow down the drip, it can help with that, but I may be confusing it with neuropathy. Somebody else may be able to advise you on that.
With regards to your mental mushiness, I have been noticing the same thing these past couple of days with Austin, my 16 year old son. He is a week behind you, as he just finished his first week. I have noticed him all of a sudden "in his own little world", like he is stoned...although, I certainly have no personal experience on what that is like. He hasn't felt up to conversing much, plus he has his Dad and I managing his care, so I don't think that part is stressing him out, but you're in a different position. That too shall pass in time.
Have you tried to contact your Oncologist or whomever is the on -call Resident at the Hospital? They may be able to suggest something to help you... like Ativan maybe? As much as I hate taking or giving drugs unless absolutely necessary, I have resigned myself to the fact that in situations like this, they really can be helpful. I will admit though, with all the different meds Austin is taking, I am finding it very confusing to keep track of them. I don't know if this is an issue for you or not with "chemo brain", but I finally made up a simple chart for every day and mark off the time each one is given. I also note how Austin felt that day, if he ate etc. or anything else that might be useful. I found that helpful when discussing anything with the Doctors, because even for me, after awhile all the days seem to blend together.
I know everyone's experience with Chemo is different....even the Oncologists say so. Austin is getting frustrated with feeling like s*#t and wondering if he's EVER going to feel better and I have moments of feeling helpless and hopeless. Luckily, there are so many others on this board who have been through this same regimand and are willing to share their ups and downs as well as give advice and support. If you haven't done so already, you might want to scroll back through some of the blogs kept by different guys on this forum. I find it really helpful to have some idea of what to possibly expect and you may find stories similar to yours, so you see you are not alone and that your side effects will fade away at some point.
Hang in there. It totally sucks that you are going through this, but you will make it. You can find encouragement here at any time........ and you have an AMAZING girlfriend looking out for you as well!! Keep us posted on how you're feeling.
Cook/Maid/Chauffeur/ATM Machine/Personal Asst. to Austin
12/07/11 I/O AFP: 291 hCG: 151
12/08/11 CT Scan, Xrays - clear
12/15/11 Non Seminoma Stage1-B
EC, Teratoma, Yolk Sac, Intratubular
4/21/12 Relapse- Start 3XBEP
6/25/12 Finished BEP
7/02/12 Markers and CT Scan normal
10/3/12 3 month post-chemo check-up - All Clear!
2/28/13 8 month post-chemo check-up - All Clear!
6/30/13 ONE YEAR- ALL CLEAR!!